Random Friday (I Know It’s Been A While)

Tonight we get to go to a fundraiser at church for the Young Women and Young Men.  They are raising money for Girl’s Camp and for Scout Camp.  There will be a burrito bar for dinner, followed by a dessert auction.  I signed up to make a dessert because I really don’t think we can afford to bid on one, so I can contribute this way.  I hear the people in our ward are very generous in their bids.  They’ll pay upwards of $80 for a cake!!  I even heard of one guy (who recently passed away) who enjoyed this fundraiser so much every year and he wouldn’t hesitate to drop a couple hundred dollars.  Wow!!

What dessert am I making, you ask?  Well, that’s the tricky part.  At first I was going to make Nanaimo Bars, because who around here (besides our Stake President, who is from Calgary) has actually ever heard of them, much less tried them??  But I don’t have the time to make those.  I’m trying to keep my house clean, after all!  My second idea was to make Lemonade Ice Cream, which is really Ches’ specialty.  It’s basically a graham cracker crust with pink lemonade mixed with vanilla ice cream, topped with some scattered graham cracker crumbs.  It’s really, really good.  I think I have the time to make that… I just need to get some ice cream and let it soften a bit.  Not a problem in our weather! 😉

My third idea was just make a cake and decorate it kinda cool.  So I made two round cakes, and I have to go to the store to get some  milk so I can have pudding instead of frosting in the middle.  For decorating… I was thinking of putting little bees all over and President Hinckley’s “Be’s”.  I was debating whether to just frost it or try this yummy marshamallow fondant that I found a recipe for.  I think I’m still going to go for frosting because it’s easier.  Maybe I’ll make the cake (since it’s already baked) AND the lemonade ice cream.  Mmmmmm.


The first people to view the house came yesterday.  Their realtor told me the house shows well and I did well staging it and stuff.  Yay!  I just got a call today and another realtor is bringing over some people this afternoon.  Yay!  I really, really want my friends to be able to sell their house easily and quickly.  As long as we still get to stay until school is out (which, apparantly, is going to be part of the contract.  Our friends told us we can stay until June 1st).  It’s so nice having a clean house and being proud to show it off!! 🙂


I’ve been reading some opinions on the matter and have pondered the issue a lot recently and I have decided that on the issue of abortion, I am Pro-Choice.  I know.  Shocked, aren’t ya?  Let me explain.

I am against abortion and I would never encourage anyone to ever have one.  I believe there are way too many other options out there for an unwanted pregnancy.  HOWEVER I do not think it is a good idea for the federal government to come in and make laws on something that is much more of a moral issue than a social issue.  A woman has to have the right to make choices for herself.  She must accept the consequences (good or bad) of that choice.  I believe that there should be restrictions of different sorts (such as not allowing third trimester abortions, etc.) placed on abortion, and that it should be a state’s decision, not a federal decision.

Again, I am not “for” abortion.  I am still Pro-Life in that I believe that it is not just a fetus inside a woman’s body, but a human being that can feel pain and should be given every chance at life, but I really don’t like the idea of the federal government stepping in and making that decision for everyone.

By outlawing abortion and saying it is only legal in certain circumstances just means there will always be loopholes and fraudulent cases brought about.  I believe that kids should be taught about birth control AND abstinance in school.  Not just one or the other.  Kids need to understand that having sex means there is a very real possiblity of getting pregnant.  Oh, and that birth control and whatever forms of protection you use doesn’t mean you won’t get pregnant, either.  The only 100% sure-fire way of not getting pregnant is to NOT have sex.  That needs to be seriously pushed.  And yes, I understand that kids will still have sex, and for that I whole-heartedly want them taught to use protection.  They need to be taught both.

Well, I have more opinions on this matter, but I’m not very good at making my points clear.  I just wanted to throw some of that out there.


We have some new favorite websites in our family.  Aiden is really enjoying Rebel Friends because it’s all Star Wars stuff for kids.  He has taken the Jedi training test and is an official Padawan.  He really tries to use The Force here at home, too.  It’s really funny.

I am enjoying Hulu.  You can watch full episodes of TV shows and can watch full movies.  Now, they don’t have everything, but they do have classics, so you can watch the most recent episode of The Simpsons or How I Met Your Mother, then watch something from The Cosby Show.  Good stuff!  Check that out.

Dallin and Parker enjoy Kneebouncers.  If you have really young kids that want to play on the computer, check this out.  It’s got different activities with cool sounds and visuals.  The kids press the keys and stuff happens.  At the age of a kid like Parker, isn’t that what they want?  To see a reaction?  So anyway, it’s fun for them.


Ches had an orchestra concert last night.  First the middle school orchestras played, then Ches’ high school group.  It’s really fun to watch this little kids and know that in a few years they will be Ches’ students.  They’re so cute.

The instructor for the beginning groups had the kids stand up by rows so that parents could take their pictures.  She said in one group, “Okay, back row, stand up.  Smile nice.  Your parents want to see you looking happy!”  One kid was so short he looked like he was still sitting down, so he stuck his bow straight up in the air so his mom could see him.  It was so cute!  I was laughing.

Another kid, as his group was getting on stage, walked confidently across the front of the stage with that cool strut that teenagers often use.  Oh, and he used his bow as a cane.  That cracked me up.  Probably not the best thing to do with a bow, but still.  It was like he was saying, “I’m in orchestra and I am cooooool.  I make this look good.”  (Think of that in a very Will Smith sort of confidence.)

Ches said after the concert one little girl came up to him and, in the sweetest little voice, said, “You’re a really good conductor!”  She was like worshipping him.  He loved that! 🙂


I heard Nirvana’s “Smells Like Teen Spirit” on the radio last night.  That song makes me all warm inside.  Reminds me of being in high school.  Am I wierd?  About that, I mean.


If you could only have ONE book to read for the rest of your life, what would it be?

8 responses to “Random Friday (I Know It’s Been A While)

  1. One book?
    “War and Peace” by Leo Tolstoy.

    I’m reading it slowly right now (it’s ginormous!) and I think I could spend the rest of my life studying it and trying to figure out everything Tolstoy was REALLY writing about.

    niiiiiice on the abortion comments. It’s kind of funny to hear you formulating these opinions over the phone and hearing the same frustration in a post.

    “Heart Shaped Box” will always have a special place in my music library.

  2. I take a different perspective than you on abortion. I’ve seen the pro-choice side of it working with girls that had abortions. I’m on the other side of it now, waiting for a mother to actually not have an abortion and do the right thing and give her child up for adoption (rare indeed). And, most importantly, I’ve lived my whole life with the knowledge that every doctor my mother saw told her to have an abortion on me. (granted, I did pose health issues to her, nothing that actually came to fruition though).

    If you knew the personal anguish of young girls who have had abortions, if you knew the anguish of mothers waiting for adoption, if you knew what it feels like to grow up and know that YOU are one of those insignificant fetuses that is fit for destruction, perhaps you would have a different perspective.


    Let us know how the house sell does! Are you guys going to be buying a house closer to Ches’s school, or what is your plan for moving?

    I showed your house tour to Jaedin and he got sad that you were moving because now we can’t go back to that house (yeah, cuz we visit Phoenix ALL the time, right?). I told him that we’ll go to your new house next time we’re in Phoenix 😉


    Hmm…one book? For the whole rest of my life? You know I’m a geek, it has to be a religious one, so I’d go for the seminary answer of BOM, but the real answer of Jesus the Christ. Seriously, fabulous. Life changing indeed.

  3. I know for one thing it is not the book “Pillars of the Earth” although everything was “resolved” I didn’t think it was as good as Lady O said it would be. To adult.

  4. Feathersky, I object to your saying that not having an abortion is “the right thing.”

    It is NOT always the right thing. It is not YOUR CHOICE to make for somebody else. A woman should have the choice to do what she pleases with her own body.

    I’ve had a couple friends that got pregnant in college and had abortions as soon as they figured out they were pregnant. It was definitely the right thing for both of them — they didn’t have to drop out of school to have a kid or interrupt their 20-year-old lives at all. A ton of college aged girls get abortions each year — and I do believe for the majority it’s just fine. Keep in mind MA law says you have to go to counseling (which is free) for a few sessions before and after abortions, or you can’t have one.

    If people are waiting for children, they should take a look at the overpopulation in the USA foster care system. There’s not even half the amount of foster parents needed, and that division is growing. Foster care isn’t fun for kids; if an adult wants to really help children in need and is having problems with adoption, there’s foster care.

  5. Timber — I’m basically just saying that I am pro choice in that I do not believe we should be making laws against abortion. Once you do, you open a huge can of worms that ties up the legal system. I don’t believe that banning abortions will make things more dangerous for girls or women, so that is not my reason, either (I’m not saying that’s what you said. Just making a statement). I just don’t feel right about making laws that completely ban this.

    I have a really good friend who had an abortion. I didn’t know until after the fact, so there is nothing I could do to help prevent it by that point. I do not agree with her decision, but I can see her point of view. I don’t wish to go into the details here because it is a very private matter, and some of my own family members know this friend of mine and my friend doesn’t want others to know. Giving any details may “give it away”, if you know what I mean. It was a difficult, hear-wrenching decision for her.I can sympathize with her, but still disagree. I just don’t think the option should be made illegal.

    Erica — Your examples of college girls getting abortions doesn’t cut it. Sorry. Just because you’re having a baby doesn’t mean you have to drop out of college. And interrupting your early 20’s?? Ha! It’s 9 months out of your life. Big freakin’ deal. If you get pregnant in your early 20’s and have an abortion because it’s going to “interrupt” your lifestyle, then it’s a completely selfish reason for having an abortion, and yeah. I don’t think that’s the right thing to do. In your early 20’s is actually a prime time to have a baby. Your body is able to bounce back quicker, you’re more likely to have an easier pregnancy and delivery, and if you have (and keep) the baby, that means that the child will grow up and move out while you are still young and can do a lot more. Those are just a few examples of why having babies in the early 20’s is a good idea. I think that your couple of friends did not do the right thing if those were the reasons they chose to have an abortion. Those were completely selfish reasons. They could have, instead, decided to do something bigger than themselves and have the babies, then give them up for adoption. They would need counseling for that, too, but it is a good idea that many girls don’t even consider because they don’t want their lives to change.

    The entire adoption and foster care system needs a lot of work. A LOT. Please don’t assume that my friends don’t understand how certain things work. You do not know their situations and what they are going through. I personally know of people who DO have kids through the foster care system, and just when a real bond is made, the kid is taken away. Not good for the kid, not good for the family (especially with other kids involved). I know people who had foster children and tried to adopt, but the kid’s mom was in jail and wouldn’t give up their rights to the kid, and then the kid was put in a new home once again.

    Adoption is a very long, difficult, expensive, emotional process. Don’t discount people who prefer to adopt over foster care. There are different reasons why one would choose adoption over foster care.

  6. Hey, Sariah’s back with “Random Friday”! How cool is that?!

    I’m not going to enter the big debate, but that’s mainly because everything you say makes perfect sense to me. There are a lot of people who feel the same way you do (and obviously a lot of people who feel very differently).

    If I was going to have to choose only one book for the rest of my life, it would have to be a huge book. Some big heavy anthology of poetry or short stories.

  7. OK, Greatest One , prepare to get mad at me…the book I would choose is the Book of Mormon. Really. And I don’t even like rereading books for the most part. But that I can and do.

    Abortion reasons–I think Sariah covered the adoption / foster care thing quite well. Also, at least in OH [I was just talking with my next door neighbor a couple days ago…she does foster care] foster care homes are frequently kept short-term on pupose because of parental rights–and those parents not wanting their kids to really bond with a new family, plus, if the reason for foster care is the child’s problems, then the kid has all sorts of court mandated restrictions, so they cannot be treated as you would your own child–its really crazy, like walking a high school student to and from the bus stop–even though it is clearly within sight of your house! Most people do not want to get involved with all that, nor do they want the state inspecting their homes whenever they choose to pop in. Also the selfishness of abortion is, I agree with Sariah, wrong. I’ve also see the emotional aftermath on a couple of occations. Long term–not good.

    However, if you go back before Roe v. Wade, abortion was legal in some states and not in others. I think it should be returned to the states [and should never have been taken away from the states.] After all, people can always vote–with their feet, if need be! That’s part of the beauty of the US. We have that freedom of choice. So, you see, I am pro-choice–I just think the timing of the choice is wrong.

    I sympathize with feathersky. Today, my mom would be urged to abort me…not only would my parents not had me, but they would not have had my younger siblings either as they made the painful decision to have no more children once they learned the extent of my older brothers problems–but it ewas too late…Surprise! I was already on the way. And if they’s had the quality of sonograms that are used today–they would not have been able to see Mark’s problems [brain damage] but they would have seen most of mine–the deformed legs and feet.

    [So, oh Great one–you wouldn’t be you either!]

    Happy that the house is showing well–not an easy task with three young boys, I’m sure! Any word yet on your end?

    Thank you for your random day–even tho I didn’t get to it ’til Mon! [Last week was crazy!]

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